How would you feel about your child calling you by first name?

I call my father Eric because that's all he is to me. My grandparents and his woman don't approve. How would you parents feel about that?

How would you feel about your child calling you by first name?
my kids call me by my name when they're trying to get my attention. it doesn't bother me. it's my name. mom is a title. however, some mothers may take offense to not being called "mom" because they claim it's disrespectful. to each their own. if your father isn't bothered by it, then the others need to stay out of it.
Reply:My daughter is 6 and I am fine with her occasionally calling me by my first name. If she tried to do it on a regular basis at this age - I would tell her that she needs to call me Mom so that people will know that we are a family. If she tries calling me by my first name when she is grown - I will be disappointed but not make too big a deal out of it.





Her dad isn't very involved. She calls him Donald about a third of the time. It makes him mad, but I don't think he has totally earned the "dad" title. I will remind her that he likes to be called Daddy, but I would never punish her for calling him by his first name.





When done in the right tone of voice, I think that calling parents "mom" and "dad" shows that you are a part of the family. It is a good thing :) Calling them by their first names makes them look more like acquaintances or friends. That's sad because you should be closer to your parents than that. But hey - if they don't take care of you and stuff like a parent should, it's not your fault that they didn't earn the mom and dad titles.





I will just continue trying to be a good mom so that I can deserve to be called mom :)





By the way, my dad was never there for me. But I wanted a father so badly! I refer to him as "dad" half the time and as "Robert" the other half of the time, depending on who I talk to. When talking to my mom's family - I have an uncle named Robert, so I call my father "My dad, Robert" or "The Robert that was my dad".
Reply:I am not a mother but what i have learned is that, to some parents they feel bad, mostly people with high statues or are rich, even the people that are very very very religious. Personally, I am not married but i would think it is disrespectful, but your case is different. By your past questions i have realized that your dad isn't a good dad. What he has done isn't good, you can't replace your mom with that new mom, so calling your dad Eric is not bad cause he needs to learn. And if i had a step mom which i don't but say for example her name was "Stephanie" I would call her Stephanie rather than Mom. Mom is a tittle, but the name is your Moms name. But your younger than your dad so as i sad People who are well mannered want kids to call them Mom and Dad, not like "Stephanie" (example) "Eric", but as i said your case is different
Reply:First of all I think the people saying its disrespectful are talking complete bull.


My daughter is 5 and she sometimes calls me and her dad by are first names.


Why? Because she calls her step-parents by their first names. They call us by a first names, and we call them by name to.


She latched onto that fact. Personally, I don't really mind, I am not crazy about it, but I don't feel it is disrespectful. I used to correct, but she just found she was getting a reaction for it and did it more. Now her dad corrects her and once more she thinks its a game.


You can expect children to think its disrespectful to call their parents but their first names when everyone else does.
Reply:I can understand your feelings. But i don't think any parent likes their child to call them by first name. People's feelings change. If he said he wouldn't remarry, that was then, this is now. He's met someone who perhaps can bring him happiness. It is terrible he wasnt there for you. If you can, get counselling as you need to rid yourself of these feelings. If your grandparents raised you and would prefere you to not call your father by 1st name, how about doing it for them.
Reply:I call my mom by her first name, usually when I'm trying to get her attention and she's tuned out all the "moms" in the store lol. She doesn't mind then, but I know better than to do it when we're at home, just to address her. I can kind of see where you're coming from. If I was to ever meet my biological father for the first time in 17 years, I'd call him by his name, which is a LOT more respect than he deserves in my opinion....
Reply:I wouldn't like it. And with good reason-its not respectful. As a child, I was never allowed to call an adult by their first name. I always had to refer to my aunts and uncles by that. Even with close friends of the family that were not related-I had to call them Ms. Betty or Mr. Sam, etc.
Reply:ya know, i often refer to my parents as thier first names, my dad was never there, and my mom has mental issues and she left us 12 years ago, she has been in and out of our lives,





anyways.....regardless what you call them or what they do...they ARE your parents......


This roots down deep...you haven't forgiven your dad for whatever it is that he has done to you and that is why you call him by his first name, and not dad!


I call my parents mom and dad to them, and had to forgive them before i could do that and feel ok with it!


So instead of wondering what everyone else thinks,.....try to pin point WHY you are calling him that and why you can't call him dad


God bless!
Reply:We are all grown and out of the house, but still yet my parents would flip if I called them by their names. I would react the same if someday my children calling me by my first name. However, if he has never been there for you, and you were raised by someone else, I can understand how you would not feel comfortable calling him Dad.
Reply:I personally would HATE it. It is totally disrespectful. It also means that he isn't important to you, that he's just another person, instead of someone you share a special relationship with.
Reply:I have a 10 year old in my class that calls his father Spider. His dads name is George. I guess as long as love is there really whats in a name ?


( Connie Mom of 4 and 5th. Grade Teacher )
Reply:My older children call their father (my ex) by his first name but it is more out of disrespect than anything. They do not respect him as "dad" as he chose to not be one.
Reply:I would be more offended by being referred to as "his woman," personally. But I believe in respect of elders regardless of their relation to you. I understand not liking "dad" under those circumstances, but there is always "sir" and "mr. whatever"
Reply:I do not like it when my son calls me by my name. But I see your point. Being called Daddy or Mommy is not a right. It needs to be earned.
Reply:I would not like it.
Reply:i would smack my child in the mouth. Juvenile problems are out of control in this country and respect starts at home not from the teacher of police it starts at home. If children don't respect parents they wont respect others